Last week, I published the list of 10 types of woman a man should never marry, the reactions, messages and criticisms have all been encouraging.
One inspiring email I got from a devoted reader was ‘ Why are you writing against the women folks, why can’t you also write on the ten types of men a woman should never marry?
I thought over it for a while and deeply understands the importance behind this question and the impact it can on the nation, most especially considering the high homicide right, advance hate display towards the feminine folks.
So, today, we are publishing the list of top 10 types of man a woman should never marry.
- 1# A Drunk Addict
I was discussing with a lady some couple of months ago about her choice and preference of man she would love to date or marry. This simple question led to some eye opening revelation and I was somehow shocked by her explanation.
She said she would never marry a drunk addict or someone that drinks. I asked why? What shocked me was ‘a man that drinks a lot, or basically a drunk addict because they are extremely difficult to live with or even please!’ was her first response.
Along the line of discussion, I later discovered that her late father was a drunk addict and she witnessed the abuse, trauma her mum went through before they finally divorced.
In essence, if you are looking for a man to marry, the first advice is ‘ don’t settle for a man that drinks too much or cannot do a day without drinking a bottle of alcohol or beer a day.
80% of them are not responsible, they womanize, beats up their woman at the slightest provocation, they hardly stays at home with their woman/family and most times, they are an embarrassment to the neighborhood.
- 2# Unstable In Commitment
An adage says, there is no smoke without fire or at least traces of fire!! This adage holds true even in marriages or relationship.
That is the essence of courtship, just because the guy is ready to put a ring and get wedded to you does not mean be will be committed in the union. Being committed implies that he is responsible, he is stable in decision making and takes charge.
Most times, before making that long life decision of being with him forever, you need to study his commitment level. Does he deviate most times from his promises, Is he responsible with his finances? Does he easily accepts his own fault or tries to pass it to someone else.
If he is showing some sort of commitment phobia, then there is no guarantee that he will be committed in core areas of relationship or marriage.
We know there is no perfect man out there, however, these little factors plays an important role in enjoying your man in your relationship journey.
- 3# Always broke complaints
Money is a good thing. 95% of successful relationships and marriage is 100% helped with the availability of money, take it or leave it!!
That is why marriages is not for boys but men ( not men in terms of age) but men in terms of maturity and ability to manage finances and take care of a woman.
If your boyfriend is always a broke bloke fellow, complains about being broke all the time; then you need to find out why. Does he have a job, is he lazy to work, has he lost his job e.t.c.
All these details, when summed up together is of high importance in your decision making. A man should be able to take charge of the home, provides for the woman and the kids.
However, in some certain issues of life, probably if the guy lost his job, those moments might be trying period and the woman in question should bear and understand with the man.!!
- 4# Mama’s Boy
I have seen so many marriages crash because of this important point. One major character of a mama’s boy is that they are never man enough, they compare their wife to their mum, they are always going/running to their mother if there is a little crisis/misunderstanding between them and their wife/woman.
This is a torn in the flesh and as such, a woman should avoid this type of man because you will always be at loggerheads and constantly fighting/quarreling with the mum.
- 5# Bad Boys
Real life experiences, research has shown that most ladies/woman always tend to love the bad guys. While it is so funny to know this, however, this is the stark reality.
The definition of a bad boy in this context is dependent on the woman, however, we are abbreviating it as the ‘rebel’ in the society. A term most African countries refers to as the ‘ area boys, drug addict, violence prone guys etc.
A hot tempered, violent, bad, and rebel guys in the community or society is most times the same in marriages because no matter how you try to tame a tiger, a tiger is always a tiger.
If the guy is constantly fighting on the street, causing problems everywhere, there is every likelihood that he would do the same thing for you!!
- 6# Hot Tempered
A man that is hot tempered is a no go area if you really wants to spend the rest of your life with such a man. Trust me, if you are a very beautiful woman, you will soon become an ugly woman because a hot tempered man will beat the hell out of you at the slightest provocation.
To be honest with you, someone that is hot tempered do not think before they carry out any dangerous act, it is not that they do not love their woman, but the temper in them overrides their love level whenever they get angry.
- 7# Hangs out with friends
There is nothing wrong being a guy that hangs out with his friends on selected occasions, but it is wrong if such
a man always spends time in the company of his friends more than his woman.
How will you know?
Is he always in a hurry to go hang out with his friends evenn if the two of you are together? Is he always going to parties with his friends at the slightest invitation.
I actually know of a particular wonderful and beautiful woman whose husband is in this category. The husband hardly stays at home, he is always out in the company of this friends and most times come home late at night.
I am sure you do not want this sort of a stuff, do you?
- 8# A Narcissist
Who is a narcissist? They are the sort of people who ascribe all glory to themselves. They are attention seekers, they always everything to be about them.
Staying and marrying such a narcissist man can be troubling because he will not give you the needed attention, he will not appreciate you enough. A narcissist believes everything he has or does is from his own touch, strategies and wisdom.
They brag about what they have, their collections and achievements; and hardly recognizes that people are of importance to them.
- 9# Timid -Cant Stand Up To Challenges
Believe me, a woman just need two things to stay with you forever; Love and security. Security for her to know that no one else is taking her place and you can protect her all the time.
Now, this is an important issue; a woman should never marry the guy that is timid and cannot stand up to challenges, fight and demanding issues. For example, whenever your woman is being harrassed or insulted, a man should be able to stand in , protect and fight for her…..that is a strong example of security she craves for.
Study the man in question, and note this attitude. If he is timid, then your security and protection in the union is not guaranteed!!.
- 10# Manly Egoist
There is nothing wrong or bad about being a rugged, strong man. Fine, you know that already. However, he spends much of his time clubbing, going hunting, drinking beer, hanging out with friends e.t.c.
He sees himself as the man of the house, the authority maker, the undisputed owner of the house…this can be dangerous because you will soon start realising you are the only one doing the house chores, taking care of the ids, changing diapers e.t.c.
This is common with most African men who sees themselves as the Alpha and omega in marriage ( common with South African guys a lot!!)
- 11# A man that cheats
Please know this truth..an average man cheats, this means that 93 out of 100 men cheats or as slept with another woman apart from you.!!
However, my main point of emphasis is having a serial cheater, an addicted cheater. If you are going with a man and you notice he is cheating on you, if he gets married to you, he will increase his level of cheating.
In essence, do not date or marry a man that is an established cheater. You know them by their words ( sweet words), ability to manipulate and/or get whatever they want.
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